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Tara VanDyke Tara VanDyke

Embrace the Place

Do you love the place you live or do you long to leave? We are fascinated by the ways geographic location impacts our identity, roots us in community, and influences our sense of belonging. Whether you’re a mover, a stayer, or feeling stuck, we can find ways to flourish where we are and invest in our environments.

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Tara VanDyke Tara VanDyke

Catching Up with Clare

This week we reconnect with our friend Clare, who played a pivotal role in helping launch the podcast back in 2022. Clare discusses her journey from the Marriage and Family Therapy program in graduate school to her current role in private practice. We reflect together on how far we’ve come, and Clare highlights the challenges many young professionals face in the arenas of health, financial stability, social support, personal growth, and loneliness.

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Tara VanDyke Tara VanDyke

Conclave and the Certainty of Faith

Join us to discuss the thought-provoking film 'Conclave'. We won’t spoil the plot, but we do have some fun facts about the papal election process. Tune in for engaging conversation about challenging themes of faith, doubt, and power dynamics within the context of the church. From examining the roles of tradition and certainty to addressing gender roles and political influences, this episode will stimulate your mind and encourage deep reflection on faith and culture.

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Tara VanDyke Tara VanDyke

Sharing the Load

The joys of domestic life are often rudely interrupted by mundane tasks and whose turn it is to do them. This week we dive into the tricky nature of dividing chores and managing expectations in relationships. From traditional gender roles to modern-day flexibility, we share stories about ways we’ve shifted the load of responsibility at different stages in our relationship. We reflect on the importance of open communication, trust, and finding the humor in the dirtiest work.

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Tara VanDyke Tara VanDyke

Cheers to Healthy Communication

You asked for it, we’re bringing it! We’re talking about how to build and maintain healthy communication. We discuss our framework for enhancing relational interactions: C.H.E.E.R.S. – curiosity, humility, empathy, emotional regulation, and sharing. With examples and personal anecdotes for each practice, we offer ideas for communicating effectively, managing conflict well, and connecting deeply.

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Stepping into the Unknown

This week we explore our personal responses to the unknowable and the mysterious. We talk about the illusion of control , and the importance of developing a wide window of tolerance. Drawing from our experience with death, birth, and other challenging times, we share strategies for building resilience in the face of ambiguity.

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Mind Your Manners

In this episode we’re exploring the world of etiquette and discovering which rules our family breaks at every single meal! We learn about quirky guidelines of the past (never let a woman carry anything heavier than a purse?), the way cultural norms shape politeness today, and how manners evolve alongside society. We also chat about the heart behind table manners—not setting rigid rules, but creating distraction-free moments that strengthen connection. Join us for personal stories, a few laughs, and a fresh take on what manners really mean in today’s world!

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Tara VanDyke Tara VanDyke

Labels and the People Who Hate Them

We might be the only ones in our community who don’t know where we stand on the Enneagram or the latest online personality quiz. While we can certainly appreciate the benefits of self-discovery, we also wonder about the limiting influence of labels on personal identity, relationships, and professional dynamics. We examine our natural tendency to categorize people, from mental health diagnoses to high school stereotypes, and advocate for a deeper understanding of our unique value as human beings.

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Oh (Deer)! Is AI Taking Over?

We reveal who was actually behind the wheel when a deer came out of nowhere, and explain how this incident broke a streak of driving mishaps for one of us. But more importantly, we dive into the evolving role of artificial intelligence in our lives and our people-focused careers. We explore the potential benefits of this new technology as well as our fear that it will replace genuine human connection.

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A Christmas Reading

A Christmas reading of the greatest story since the beginning of time. David and Tara read from the Holy Bible, Isaiah 9:2,6-7; Luke 1:26-56; Luke 2:1-20.

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What Makes a Happy Home

Home is where the heart is, as they say, and the house we live in matters too. It’s clear that the place we live has a big impact on our wellbeing and relationships. We explore some research that identifies factors contributing to happiness at home. Join us as we discover the difference between size and spaciousness, and learn about the importance of adaptability, access to nature, and inviting others in. We share what we love about our own home, and some practical takeaways about what creates a harmonious living environment.

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A Conversation about the Film “Bonhoeffer” with Todd Komarnicki

Todd Komarnicki, writer and director of the film “Bonhoeffer” joins us for a lively discussion about many topics, including his creative process, politics, jazz, and faith. He shares insights into his portrayal of the film’s hero, Dietrich Bonhoeffer, a German theologian and anti-Nazi dissident whose writings deeply influenced David’s spiritual and professional formation. Komarnicki reflects on the deep lessons he’s learned from Bonhoeffer’s life, and shares his frustration with some misconceptions about the film’s association with political ideologies.

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Life & Leadership Beyond Borders

In this episode we welcome a guest who is living out her faith with radical courage and compassion. From a pivotal moment in her youth, she felt a profound calling that altered the course of her life. She shares her extraordinary journey of stepping into unfamiliar cultures, learning new languages, and immersing herself in communities vastly different from her upbringing. Join us as we discuss the challenges and rewards of being a single woman in male-dominated societies, and building meaningful relationships through vulnerability and humility.

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Why Does Pain Exist? A Discussion with Dr. Jerry Root

With the inevitability of pain and suffering in our world, a typical human response is to avoid it or try to make meaning of it. In this episode, we attempt to face hard questions head-on as we discuss insights from C.S. Lewis from his book “The Problem of Pain.” We are joined by Dr. Jerry Root, an expert on Lewis’s writings, to dive deep into ideas of how to approach pain with a sense of hope instead of despair.

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Home for the Holidays: Navigating Festivities & Family Dynamics

Do you have complicated feelings about the holidays? You’re not alone! While we’re busy making the season merry and bright, we often end up crushed by a stressful load of gift lists, festive events, baking extravaganzas, and family gatherings. In this episode we talk about ways to honor the reality of grief and overwhelm while setting realistic expectations and finding moments of peace.

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[Movie Review] The Wild Robot

Can woodland creatures and a task-oriented robot work together for a common purpose? What possibilities lie in the intersection of nature and technology? Find out in this family-friendly film, The Wild Robot. We enjoyed watching the movie together and we hope you’ll join us for a chat about some funny moments, favorite characters, and deep universal themes. We’ll also explore the beauty and brutality of the natural world and discuss the film’s unexpectedly on-point depictions of parenthood and identity formation.

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Adventures in Cross-Cultural Living

Deep in the fog of jet lag, we share the joys and challenges of living and working across cultures. We discuss the profound impact of embracing life outside your comfort zone, from the fun of exploring new locations and foods to the challenges of loneliness and culture shock. 


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Unscripted: Why You Need Improv in Your Life

In this episode we discuss the transformative power of saying "Yes, and..." with improv expert Jeff Ash. Join us as we learn how improvisational skills can cultivate human connection, encourage self-discovery, and enhance professional and personal interactions.

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Far from Perfect

Unrealistic expectations and the pursuit of perfection can lead to extra stress and shame in our lives. In this episode, we explore how comparing ourselves with others can set us up for feeling like a failure. What if we let go of the need to win and instead embraced vulnerability and a values-based approach to success? Join us as we explore the benefits of authenticity over perfection.

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What You Need For a Tough Trek

We end up on some of life's paths by choice, and some not so much. We find that we need extra motivation and equipment for the uphill battles or daunting tasks. Whatever path you're on, we hope that after spending some time with us you'll feel less alone and believe you've got what it takes to see it through.

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